When was the last time you had a really great discussion with someone?
You know the kind I mean – seriously good banter; a warm chat; an exchange of ideas or views; a tête-à-tête….
More…the kind of talk that comes with a cup of coffee or tea – maybe a beer or two – a walk around the block – a bench in the park – late night phone talk or a catch-up on a street corner with someone you bumped into and haven’t seen in a while.
What do they all have in common?
For me they connote a sense of warmth; intimacy.
Also a blurring of time – you know that feeling – you stop to talk and then an hour goes by….
More…there is no limit to your words…you can say what you mean…dig deep for the right words…have no fear of, or price on, word count…
So when was the last time you had such an encounter and how was it?
Did you find it worth your while?
Did it help or hinder your relationship?
Would you do it again?
Let’s be clear – I Facebook, Tweet and whatever, like the rest, and it’s good – efficient, easy, gets to the core point (sometimes) and it connects me – but does it enhance my connectivity?
But connectivity is about people and emotion and depth – connectivity is the next step –
“Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation.”
Judith Martin (Miss Manners)
Conversation is connectivity. Communication is connection.
Love Facebook – but don’t confuse those few lines of desultory comment or a “thumbs up” for connectivity. By the way, Facebook doesn’t either – see Facebook Studio Awards…
Take a look at how Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg proudly defines what Facebook has become: “Less broadcasting, more conversations.”
Or what Facebook’s VP of Product Chris Cox suggests: “Don’t think of each piece of a profile as a field of data, but rather connective tissue.”
And see what others say too –
The Tech Elite from the Waldorf Schools, I’ve mentioned them in the past, say “Engagement is about human contact.”
Being online means being connected but it doesn’t necessarily mean connectivity.
Connection or Connectivity….
Communication or conversation….
It’s up to you….
What do you think?