Did you make any New Year’s resolutions?
Come on…be honest!
Seems that the favorites are weight and smoking related, with a few “will be nicer to all” thrown in and that the majority of said resolutions are not kept beyond the first month or so.
Gym memberships go up; nicotine gums sell out and folks line up at various coaching and counseling services – but all too soon something else gets in the way and the resolution gets sidelined to reappear next New Year’s Eve.
Let’s be clear – I’m not judging – we all have that baggage – or most of us anyway if we are open with ourselves. The question is why?
Why do we fall down? Why do we let lapse the goal that seemed so important to our lives as we counted down the seconds to a New Year? Why do we fail to achieve that which we so resolutely swore?
There is no end to the strategies to help keep resolutions…make only one; breaking a habit is deemed easier than starting a new one (maybe); enlist with a friend and on and on.
I’m going to take another view – one that is championed by my wife – and passionately I might add.
The problem with resolutions is that we make them during fits of motivated moments – with little thought of life integration. In other words we get caught up in the moment; really and truly we mean it…but as time passes – and we get further and further from the moment of resolution – we get less and less resolute.
So it goes.
My wife’s belief is that rather than make resolutions – grand sounding; bombastic; self congratulatory proclamations of wish states – we need to drive a stake into the ground and work hard every day – day by day – toiling at it; working it – understanding that it’s tough and that we need constant motivation and reinforcement – that there is no clear start and no real finish – and yes we will fail occasionally – but that we need to just get right back up and go for it again.
The difference is between waiting for Christmas to be nice; or Valentine’s Day to love; or Mother’s Day to respect Mom – versus working hard to be nice or love or respect every single day; every single hour.
So when I asked her last night what her resolutions were – she whacked me and asked why I hadn’t paid attention these past 30+ years – “Don’t tell me what you are going to do – just do it” she said. “Do it big or stay in bed…isn’t that your quote?” and so it goes.
So in Debbie’s name I share this thought for the New Year and if you have made resolutions I hope you keep them if you want to and if you haven’t I hope that you make every day a special and important one.
May we all have the courage to continue and the strength to help one another and one final thought:
“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.”
All my best to all for ‘012!
What do you think??